Hi all, I'm in sort of an unique situation - I'm 27 years old and have two older siblings (35 & 34). Our mother died 5 years ago from cancer, and we have been caring for our 80 year old father since then. He has Parkinson's and is not a social guy, so all interactions is really up to us. Being 27, I'm trying to live a "normal life" -- aka going out with my boyfriend and friends on the weekend. My sister moved home about 2 years ago to help my dad. I have to be honest that I am so incredibly exhausted. Mostly from planning my life around who will be home, what time is dad's medicine, etc. I am very in favor of looking at assisted care facilities, but both my siblings are all for keeping the status quo and keeping our dad in the house. Also, it's not like we all get along! We're constantly fighting and bickering. I am so incredibly lost and feel like a terrible daughter/sister. My father is a wonderful man - very much an engineer without the greatest social skills. He doesn't provide very much emotional support, but I know he loves and cares for us so much. Anyone out there who did turn to an assisted living facility -- how did you start the process and how did you deal with the finances? Thank you.
Siblings should call each other weekly to share their observations. Siblings should start touring AL's, not for immediate placement, but for when the time comes. Because it will be here before you know it.