I cared for mum post op. I didn’t know she was incontinent until two days before discharge. I had nights of her getting up four times or more to pee. She catheterizes herself standing up. She caths every time she goes to the bathroom. That is when she has a BM. She doesn’t know it. It ends up getting everywhere. She can’t wipe herself after a BM without getting feces under her nails, on the handles of her walker, etc. On one night she went to the bathroom herself. I had fallen asleep and didn’t hear her get up. I did her the walker click after she was done in the bathroom. She had feces all over herself...on her feet, hands, her back, her private area. She had smeared it all over the bathroom. I had to shower her at 2:30 in the morning. I had to clean the entire bathroom. I had to wash all her bedding. It was a real mess. I’m very worried that she is rushing into assisted living. They told her they care for people with incontinence. I’m so skeptical that they will be able to assist her every time she needs to go. I’m skeptical that they will be able to clean her, her bathroom and everything else in the middle of the night. Can someone answer these concerns?!