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She also needs convincing a lot to have a shower. Twice a week currently. Can anyone help with advice how to get her to agree to shower and more importantly how can we get her to hand over soiled underwear for laundering?

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Look under the matress. My GFs father was hiding things there.
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Not to be rude--but don't you have a sense of smell? My mom's depends are so rank they can be smelled from the front door of the house she lives in. She has an 'adult' diaper genie, which is barely better than having a week's worth of soggy depends in the trash, fermenting away. She REFUSES to let anyone take out her bathrom trash, so after a couple days--it's bad. After a week it's almost palpable.

And she tried flushing the depends which causes a major plumbing backup. Even those 'flushable wipes' should NOT be flushed.

Mom will sometimes wear the disposable briefs with a pad in there too. This is for days she doesn't want to use the bathroom at all--she also has a permanent catheter, so I do not know where all this liquid comes from!

And a person who will flush briefs will also flush a disosable adult diaper.
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peter16oct Jun 2021
Thanks for your help.
I have excellent sense of smell and I cannot notice what wife has done with soiled underwear.
I forgot to mention when I put question online, that I have found underwear in our garbage bin, so maybe that can partially, at least explain where underwear is going.
Kind regards Peter
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I had this problem with my moms underwear. My mom was flushing it down the toilet! Fortunately, we noticed the toilet was not flushing . The plunger was not working either! We called a plumber they had to run a line with a camera from the inside of the toilet down the pipes which ran under the house , front yard, and under the street in front of house. The plumbers could see blockage in the elbow of the pipe which was under the street. In the end, the plumbers pulled out 3 pairs of underwear and 2 wash cloths. It was a complete mess not to mention expensive! I started locking the bathroom doors. I put a portal toilet in her bedroom to use in the evenings. During the day, I would supervise all activity in the bathroom when she asked to use it. If I left for a few minutes to do something outside during the day the bathroom door was locked. Eventually, we got another portal toilet for my mom downstairs to use as the dementia got worse.
Look behind the head board in the bedroom, the bedroom drawers, closets, etc. My mom would throw toilet paper behind the bedroom head board.
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I could get my mom to shower if I told her we were going out--even if it was just for her to sit in the car (covid) while I ran into the store, so that ended up being my M.O.
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