My grandma is 68 soon. Today I lost my temper with her and yelled, she hasn't been out of bed much at all in the last 6 months. I doubt she'd had a bath for nearly a year until today. She had a bowel movement on her bed, I had asked her if she went to the bathroom after I smelt something. She lied and said no. So I can went about my business, eventually I had her get up... it was everywhere. So I yelled and got upset that she lied and continued laying in it, I made her get into the shower. After finishing her shower on our way back to her room, she wouldn't stand up straight and walk. She was leaning back and walking all oddly as I held onto her, eventually she slipped into the floor. I got her up once but then she fell again, and I didn't have the strength to lift her without her help. I ended up calling a nursing home and asking them if she could be admitted, after that.. she walked fine and got up easily. I wish I knew what was wrong with her or if she's just lazy? It makes me feel so bad yelling at her, but I don't know what else to do.
She may change her tune quickly, she may not. Again, a doctor's evaluation will be very beneficial so you'll know exactly what you're dealing with here. A bit of tough love in the meantime is warranted, in my opinion, based on her being perfectly fine after hearing you on the phone. I call bologna on that.
Good luck!
Are you her caregiver?
Does your grandmother take medications?