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I seriously love my grandma but I don't think she loves me. I don't get it she always asks me to help her, and I do. And for some reason she tells me "YOU DO NOTHING, YOU NEVER HELP ME, WHEN YOU ASK ME FOR HELP I'M NOT HELPING YOU!" I don't get it. Today, I was with my sister coloring, and when we were done, I wanted to mix her gel pen's with mine. So I did, and my sister started to cry so then I believe my grandma heard her cry and came to our room she was like, blah, blah, blah, blah, do not mix them, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, we need to understand her, and blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. I was triggered, like am I supposed to know? And then I was like "Ok! I didn't know!" And she said I'm gonna get sick because of the anger and just tried to get on a fight with me, not physically of course but verbally. So since me and my sister were coloring on the floor with some pillows my grandma said, "PUT THOSE PILLOWS ON YOUR BED" And I told her, that I cleaned the floor. And again got mad at me. Yesterday, she ALSO started her childish drama about something DUMB. Seriously just dumb. Since we came to the USA, (cause we lived in another country) my grandma has changed a lot! In Thanksgiving me and my cousin wanted a sleepover, and my grandma was like "No" and I said pleaseeee cause all kids will say that, so she pushed me to my room. I repeat, PUSHED ME, I coudn't even say bye to them cause my grandma freaking pushed me to my room! That was the first time I even thought of killing myself and since that day I started being more depressed. So whatever, when she pushed me to my room I locked the door and started crying and texting my mom to come home (cause she was at work) I just couldn't believe my grandma and my grandma will probably keep on being mean to me forever. I always try to be nice to her but I'm getting a lot meaner now because of who? MY GRANDMA. The sad part is that she lives in my house with my mom and sister. And whenever I try to tell her why she's acting like this? She gets even more mad like what? Thanks of her
I'm acting like this.

When I was young my grandma usually treats me very nice . She plays with me , she carries me , she thought me how ride a bike and much more fun stuffs . Ever since my little sister arrived , my grandma began to take care of my newborn little sister and she didn't play with me,and I asked her : "Why you didn't play with me ? " she replied " Because your sister needs to take alot of cares and your mom still pain , she still can walk " . 2 years later , she angry at me because I did oppisite things that she asked me to do . I just don't understand why she is that angry ? My mom explainded : " She is almost old , soon she will 60 years old . She is angry at you because you did something wrong , she got alot of work to do so she can't handle you and house work at the same time ! She is very helpfull , without her mom and is very busy but if we rent a maid , the maid won't do good . After I heard what mom explained , I tried my best to effort my badness . Now my grandma less being rude or made at me because not much more bad stuff that I had made ! I just wan't to say that if these days , I had bad attidude and make felt sad . I just wan't to say I'm sorry what I had done , hope you forgive me and I won't do this again !
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My grandmothers is the same . I live with my cousin and aunt and I feel like a prisoner or something . She’s always so mean to me always criticizing me and threating name soo differently than all of her grandchildren. She would talk to them so nicely but when it’s me she starts screaming at me I mean what did I do to deserve that . Once she asked to me to go get something and she didn’t even say the right word so I didn’t understand what she was searching for , so she started screaming at me and saying that I’m trash but what do you know when my cousin didn’t know what it was either she explained to her nicely. I REALLY HATE HER
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DepressedTeen12 Sep 16, 2018
My grandmother is exactly like that. Your not the only one suffering.
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I really think you should talk to your school counselor, teacher, or priest. Very just as honest about the pushing, hitting, and yelling as you have here. Ask them to help since you all are from another country and don't know how to get beer the help she needs. We want life to be better for our children!
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I"d suggest you talk to your school counselor about this. I found they are very useful for getting strategies for handing difficult old people!
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Teffibb, see my other answer.
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Teffib, does your grandma have dementia? On this site we also say their “brain is broken”. How old is Grandma and how old are you? Sad to say that sometimes, as we get older, things that didnt use to bother us now really do, like kids. My grandchildren visit and then go home. But Grandma is in a new, strange country and living with her daughter and grandchildren. This probably isn’t how she pictured living out her years if she lived in her old country all her life. There are many things about my life now that make me very unhappy. I sure try not to take it out on others.

But, your grandma should not be putting her hands on you. She should not be pushing or hitting you. We have laws against that in this country. If your mother won’t listen to you, speak to an adult at your school or your church, or even an aunt, uncle or another adult in your family. If they won’t help, keep trying until you find someone who will help. If you play sports, maybe a coach. When you see your doctor, maybe them. The fact that Grandma tells you not to tell your mom makes me think Grandma knows she’s doing wrong. TELL YOUR MOM!!! You should never have to accept any adult pushing or hitting or “fighting” with you, even your grandma. Maybe that’s the way it was in her old country, but not here. You need to find an adult who will listen to you and help you deal with Grandma.

Come back and tell us how you are doing. I care about you and that you are OK.
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