My 93 yr. old mother has moderate (stage 5-6) Alzheimer's dementia. She can be lucid a times but very "spaced out" other times.
I have power of attorney for her health care and I am co owner on her bank accounts.
She has gotten to the point where she isn't bathing frequently, she puts things in strange places. (I finally found the cordless phone wrapped in a flannel sheet in the cupboard!) and she tells me that people go into her apt and steal things.
She can't take routine medicine anymore because she forgets if she's taken it. (She was going to take a vitamin for a headache.) I've had to take everything of importance out of her apt. (Checks, credit cards, etc.) because I'm afraid of what she'll do. (She wrote a check to the hairdresser for $800. Instead of $80.!)
She lives in a Non assisted senior residence but her 2 doctors have said she needs to be in Dementia/AL for monitoring and medication administration. I have letters from both of them. Her apt complex says they can't let her live there if her doctors don't agree. She doesn't think she needs care and has been very independent all her life. She's Adamant about not moving.
The question is; should I show her the letters and explain that the management can't let her stay there against the advise of her doctor, with the possibility of an argument and refusal to leave OR should I just take her there (she visited the place but didn't know that it was going to be he new home) under false pretenses and stay the first night with her?
I am going to ask her doctor for some anxiety medicine (that she used to take) to ease the transition.
I'm sick over this and it's affecting every part of my life (marriage, job, sleep, other relationships, etc.)
Anyone been in my shoes?