Where can we put my mom?

hong kong has low rent skyscrapers made out of shipping containers. im just kidding . i hope the hell our generation arent this neurotic. my mom cant go into a store without " just going to find somebody " . she dont need help she just wants to be fussed over.

I would look at senior apartments or independent living or assisted living if you can. It's always best when they're that fussy to have them in their own residence instead of under your roof. At least you can get away from her when you need to and can be selective as to when you see her next. Start researching what is in your area and what she can afford. And don't feel guilty. Caregiving is extremely hard so try not to beat yourself up for it. Good luck!

Thanks, if we put her in an assist living or apart they will send her to a psych facility. Geese, that may be the answer, she is never happy and will raise real hell to make sure the rest of us are miserable. The only way for peace, unless God works a miracle is for her to be medicated and that's not fair to her. I am trusting God for the answer.

SweepsSilly - you may be surprised how Assisted Living is. They have residents there that aren't happy too - so they can probably handle your mom too. They're getting paid to deal with the elderly - both happy and sad - in all kinds of situations. And if she's that bad, then she may have medical issues which need to be addressed and possibly get some medication for it. And if a psych facility is what it takes to get her the help she needs, then so be it. Are you her Medical POA? If so, you may just have to "do what you feel is right and best thing for her" whether she likes it or not - and what is the best for your family also. If you're not Medical POA, it will be harder. If you can, visit some facilities and see if this would work for your family. It did ours. But caregiving is hard already - and it's especially hard if the elder is difficult to start with. Good luck!!