There's at least one such user on the forum now with multiple threads and posters documenting this behavior, even some posters leaving or considering leaving the forum due to this behavior. Cyber stalking should not be allowed. No one should be harassed because he/she posted an opinion someone doesn't like.
I think we should be able to report an original post either for
1. An inappropriate post
2. An advertisement
3. The oringinal poster has not responed or left
4. The OP has told us their decision and now whats to shut down the posts.
I think after a certain amount of replys, the post should be shut down.
Do not feed it, only makes things worse for everyone.
And ignore your own knee jerk reaction.
"Never attribute to malice that which is adequately explained by stupidity."[1]
An eponymous law, probably named after a Robert J. Hanlon, it is a philosophical razor which suggests a way of eliminating unlikely explanations for human behavior.
The above may apply here. The poster in question perceives a "clique" and feels excluded. In actuality, we are simply a bunch of tired current and former caregivers who are generally supportive and polite.
Reward polite behavior with approbation and ignore (and report) poor behavior. This includes copying and pasting abusive private messages and emailing them to the administrators.
This is our forum. Protect its integrity.
Also, go to the About AgingCare.Com section, scroll down to find the section to send an email to admins.
(Sample) "Poster "XYZ" is slowly but surely destroying the supportive nature of this forum. Please take action."
Send attacked posters a message, encouraging them to report harrassment.
Ignore, but report, any sarcastic comments the poster makes. These folks thrive on attention. Don't give it to them.
Finally, feel empathy for someone who needs to do this to meet their unmet needs.