Admitted mom to memory care last week. Such nice staff, beautiful surroundings, she was able to keep her beloved dog. I know it takes time for her to adjust and i have explained over and over(and over!) to her why she needs to be there. Of course she asks why she cant live with me and I explain that too. I have taken care of her for 4 years and managed to let her live alone with caregivers till now. She had become a danger to herself and others so could no longer live alone. I know she is in the best hands possible(and a 5 minute drive from me) so why do I still feel miserable when she complains that she feels "closed in" there and is not happy. I told her that i have literally done all I can for her ( with NO help from my brother) but that she has to choose to be happy, as i cant make her happy, noone can. I have been honest w her that I have reached the point of meltdown exhaustion I know she forgets our conversations but I just wish she werent so self absorbed and could see that Ive honestly done my level best for her instead of pouting when Im around, feeding the ridiculous guilt I feel. Help!!