Husband has stage 3 bladder cancer at age 91, doctors won't do further treatments at his age. He is in good health generally. Now kidneys are working at 30 & 60%. Docs offer stents for nothing. He has dementia so it's a family decision. Do we make attempts to clear kidneys or let both kidneys & cancer happen?
He loves fishing several times a week, so I have become quite the sherpa as we fish the mountains of Colorado.
Its knowing that by not doing anything he may linger until kidneys shut down, which is a difficult thing to experience.
Thank you for giving me the information you experiences.
That's my opinion on the situation, to call hospice and keep DH comfortable. I'm so sorry you're all dealing with such a situation and I wish you peace with whatever decision you make.
With my dad, he chose to treat his lymphoma at age 92. He also had dementia but was deemed competent by his oncologist to make his own decision. The chemo almost killed him, and he gave up, choosing to die naturally at his own rate.
I can't imagine that the weighing in of a bunch of strangers from around the world could ever add much to this difficult decision than more confusion. When I myself deal with my own (now second) cancer dx. it is honestly the input of others, constant stories and advice, that is the most difficult part of it all.
You know your loved one. You always have. You have the advice of a medical team. The me, now, having had a long life it is about as comfortable an exit as I could conceivably make it for the one I love so much. That is personal decision. I am so very sorry, and I hope whatever family is there for support will BE supportive rather than argumentative with any decision made.
I know what I will do but don't like the responsibility of doing it.