How to determine when she shouldn't live alone? I am the sole caregiver to my mother. I have a sister but she is not present but every few months. My mom can no longer drive and her house is a mess. Is there counseling for caregivers to approach my mother delicately. She can be mean and stubborn and has lost her reasoning skills. She is 87 (going to be 88 in a couple of months). I really would like to consult with someone on how best to approach her and also to get some support emotionally dealing with the situation.