A lady that does transitioning everyday is who I’m hiring, to take mom moving day... so she will not see the movers, or see me packing some of her things, and she will take her and her doggie up where she’ll be.... for lunch. Then I will try to go in and make her room as nice as I can for when she walks in... I’m SO nervous about that moment! I’m giving her our microwave, to heat her coffee (which she LOVES) I’m sending our small 19” refrigerator (keep creamer and dog food in) and also her Keurig code machine to be in her room along with my TV so she can continue to watch her soap operas she so dearly loves. Coffee and soap operas and her dog hoping these things I’ll give her a sense of comfort. I’ve held out living and taking care of her for the past couple years of dementia and I’m all alone doing it. She won’t go to daycare and gets mad when I bring in caregiver’s when I need to do something more than three or four hours. But I do that anyway. It’s just getting too overwhelming for me and stressful. Plus she has no interaction much with people her own age. Since I am the daughter she doesn’t listen to anything I say she’s very unsteady and a high fall risk. The doctor told her to use her walker 24 seven. Does she? No only to walk the dog outside. She won’t even use a cane and is very very unsteady when she gets up to go to bed just makes me a nervous wreck I’ve done my best taking care of my mom for the past 12 or 13 years ...living with her and taking care of everything for her now Dementia is in the mix the past 2 yrs, and is getting worse. Sometimes I just go in my room and cry. I have no life other than this. I’m now 68. Missed out on my mid 50,s and most of my 60’s, and it’s always been about her. But I’m trying to stay strong and keep the plan to surprise move her very soon. Is this wrong doing it this way? Otherwise I know she’d be mad and would refuse to go.... just makes me sad.