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My husband was in the same SNF/Rehab facility 5 weeks late last year, 3 weeks a couple weeks later and 5 days Respite 2 months ago. The same LVN (she’s an awesome lady) gives him her attention over and above the CNA’s (who change constantly and don’t seem to like the job). I’d like to give her a little gift to say thank you as he is going in again for Respite Dec 4. 🥰🥳👍💃🏻

I think a prepaid Visa, Mastercard or Amazon gift card is a good idea.
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Sandra2424 Dec 1, 2025
You may be able to sneak a gift like that to staff when your family member leaves, but if the family is still there, it can be considered a bribe to get better care. Just speaking as a health professional. Theycould lose their job.
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Most facilities have a policy that staff should not accept gifts over a set amount. (usually about $25.00)
You can ask the facility what the policy is.
BUT...
I think in addition to a monetary gift if that is what you want to do. Give the Nurse a well written not of appreciation. Also send the same letter of appreciation to the management of the facility so that it gets into the Nurses employee file. This may help when she is up for a raise or better hours, or her choice of holidays off, or working holidays for the extra pay.

Please do not forget the rest of the staff, even though they constantly change and may or may not like their job these are people that are caring for your Loved One. A little sweetness goes a long way. Bring a tray of cookies or a selection of cheese and cold cuts and rolls or bread. A large box of candy to be shared with all. Trust me you will be remembered.
And not that it needs to be said...smile and greet everyone when you go to visit. Even the person moping the floor, delivering a meal, they all in some way come in contact with your LO.
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Rosered6 Nov 23, 2025
I agree with you 100%. Something else I do is thank staff members every time they do something for my mom or me when I'm visiting her. I still work, and I appreciate it when a coworker or customer thanks me for things that I do even when the thing is "just part of the job."
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This is just me, but what I would do is:
1. Buy a gift card to a local Grocery Store for $25 and put it inside a nice card with a lovely note.
2. Buy some snacks for the groups of Aides/Nurses - maybe $10-20 worth and put them out with a card saying it's from your Husband, when he arrives.
3. Write a glowing letter of commendation to the Nurse's Supervisor and to the CEO of the facility.
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Gifts may not be allowed. Check their policy first. A nice tray of cookies is always appreciated and may not be considered a gift.
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Animallovers Nov 28, 2025
Where my mother is they set up a fund that families can donate to which is then divided up with all the staff, including the ones who don’t interact with residents as much but who do affect the care, such as kitchen staff. They also say that they always appreciate things like flowers or treats that everyone can enjoy. There are some folks who definitely go above and beyond and I let them know how much I appreciate them often and make a point of telling management as well.
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I bake so I made a big tray of cookies and put it in the staff lounge. Always tried to show that I appreciated what the aids did.
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Ok so most if not all firms have policy’s for receiving gifts
So if excessive and that isn’t much to be classed that it could be seen as a bribe to get preferential treatment- staff are supposed to register all gifts
taking into account that - friends k. Your budget a small shop gift token
I usually lol £25 voucher into a thank you card - one of those that allows you to buy from
many shops
it’s not excessive or even a fiver
it’s the thought that counts
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If gifts not allowed, tell the LVN not to mention it.
(some will accept; some might not).
Amount is a very personal decision.
Gift cards are nice although so many go unused.
There is (or used to be ?) a law that says that gift cards never expire, even if they have a date on them.

A massage is always nice. And may be a major treat for a LVN - a person on their feet all day, too. Gena
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Check with the facility policy regarding gift giving. $25 grocery gift cards are usually accepted.
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One of our favorite hospice staff members lost her job because she accepted a gift (some baby clothes, I think) from a patient's family member.
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Credulous: Check their policy.
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I love Grandma1954's idea. A handwritten note with words of praise are never forgotten. And highlighting her achievements to her boss will be appreciated by both of them.

Also--I second the suggestion of giving food, if there is a no gifts policy.

Perhaps contacting her boss and saying you want to do something special for her, since she is "an awesome lady" might allow you to find out their policy on gifts plus allow you to praise her directly to her boss.

I'm happy for you and your husband that you found someone so awesome!
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Dunkin gift cards
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Gift cards to Amazon, Target, their local grocery store, Costco, Walmart. The broader their ability to use it, the better. I would not give a restaurant or small business GC because those are always in danger of folding.

My MIL was in an awesome LTC facility for 7 years. We would give the Activities Director a large GC to a local restaurant so that they could treat themselves to a lunch together (and we let the other floor staff know so there was accountability). The admins seemed to have no problem with this, but is was a faith-based non-profit facility so maybe they were more flexible on gifting policies.
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In most places I have worked, staff can get in trouble accepting individual gifts. When my mom was in an assisted living there would be food gifts for staff. Fruit baskets, cookies, etc are always welcome. If we received food individually from a family, it was always shared among the staff.
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