Mom is at home after 4+ months in rehab hospital. She has a hospital bed at home and she is wheelchair bound. She has a lack of mobility because of her obesity and osteoarthritis in her knees. She needs almost 24/7 care, but refuses to go back to rehab/nursing home because they force her to do physical therapy. She refused to set up home health (paid by Medicare) because she doesn't want to do the physical therapy. She is not getting up out of the hospital bed much at all and has no desire to get up and get going. She has two private pay caregivers/friends (one spends the night) who help her ($10-13/hr), and hired a professional caregiving agency 4-6 hours a day ($22/hr). I have helped her financially in the past, and she is expecting me to help her now also. I DO NOT feel I should help her financially if she is NOT WILLING to TRY to get better. She (nor the daughters) have the money to pay for all this private care. What is Mom thinking? And...I'm trying to keep peace with my marriage while taking care of my mom's needs.