and needs your attention but your wife does not let you provide one and get upset. Whatever could be the bad blood between my mom and wife, I think I have to provide attention and love to my mom now, when she is dying. But my wife gets extremely upset and we even do not talk... This kills me. We are married for 33 years and I am also the only son- my mom has no others. I don't know what to do. Need advice, please.