They only come to visit and they sit with grandma the whole time talking about me like I am not there. They like to tell me I need to do this more and that more. When grandma asks for a glass of water they come out of their way to come and get me to get it when I am getting ready for work. They don't want to help but they want to tell me to do more and whispers in grandma's ears to yell at me to do more when they are unemployed and I am her caregiver and work full time. When the aunts are over they criticize me and it's happy go lucky with the other grandchildren and they don't ask them for help. I have to cook and clean and host the family gatherings and they don't want to stay to help. It's like they are sitting in a circle taking turns finding things I did not do. Now that I left one granddaughter only has to stay one night and she's praised as the hero and I am told I need to help out more. They call her strong for handling it vs me but I made it clear I was doing it 24/7 with the family yelling at me and I was working cleaning, yard work, handing work, electrical work and had to sweep the roof. Plus, I was doing it for close to a year before I left and it's only been two weeks for her.