Okay friends...so the plate is full here with active dad at 102 and deaf which is a challenge in itself; and then mom who is 97 with dementia, but thank goodness moderately functional with supervision. So I overhear dad last night telling mom he isn't going to kiss her goodnight because he "might" be getting a cold. (Translation: we have a biohazard alert in progress for the next 10 days and his germs will be on every handle, door knob and in the air so the pup and I will self-isolate or do a disinfection of the surfaces before spending time in any room. Also putting mom at risk because he's not kissing her but sleeping in the same bed in the same room and using the same bathroom). And then he goes out today (to spread his germs further) and stops down the block at the sister and bros in law of our neighbors (neighbor was in highschool with me and went on to become a dentist to my folks as well; this is his wife's sister and hubby). He came home and was ever so anxious on seeing me, to pass me a note that this woman had jotted down the name of an ENT doctor because he has an on-going complaint of feeling "off balance". Also the number of a balance clinic of some sort.
Call me cynical. He has seen the one of the best ENT's this town has to offer and he was told then, and BEFORE, that his hearing loss is profound and there is no hearing aid that will help him. He is stubborn as the day is long and although this ENT said (to me) why is he using the hearing aid? (which is useless) he asked him and he (dad) believes it helps. So ENT shrugs his shoulders with a "whatever."
As for the balance, it could be related to the hearing loss. The primary guy suggested PT. He went and saw no benefit and ended it after 2-3 months which only benefited the pocket of the PT firm. I would expect similar games with the balance place.
A cochlear implant ad in the Veteran's magazine is ripped out for ME to check on. It is of other's opinions that 1. there is surgical risk, 2. he has been without hearing for so long his brain would not adjust and 3. it takes much getting used to and adjusting. AND if he doesn't like it, it's not like you just put it in a drawer or return it like a hearing aid. Not to mention as far as I know it is not covered by Medicare and would suck up god only knows how much $$$ which easily could be needed for care for my mother if she can't be left alone at home and I try to work so my own future is protected financially. (That's a whole other story).
Right now I am just infuriated with this well-meaning twit down the block. I really want to say YOU make the phone calls, YOU take him to the appointments, YOU come clean the house and make dinner and do the laundry and change the bedding and scrub the spots out. Basically just MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS! And what would you all do? BTW, It's funny how when Dad wants something bad enough, he manages to use his little CapTel phone to get it. I took the note away...and may respond by telling him I am trying to get an appt with another MD to be a primary care person. One day I found a note he had written "CBD" on it. Yeah, I know what it is. THAT he didn't ask me about.