I'm 50 been taking care of my mom all my life no one else helps me not even my daughter she just steals her money and pills not anymore called her sister and had her excommunicated from the house she has been very I'll she's had two heart attacks multiple stents throuought her body blood clots ect major weight loss I feed her but where we live I can't seem to find a Dr that will be thorough most of this has happened since Oct and to top it all off I had total knee replacement having complications some days can't hardly walk may never walk right what's killing me are the e r visits I am a certified pharmacy tech and worked with hospice as a caregiver for my GMA till she passed so I'm not medically stupid but getting very angry think there's some Alzheimer's dementia going on but she HUGELY SEEKING ATTENTION most of the time its nothing not taking her meds when I put them out she takes them selectively and trys to hide them these are her heart pills I've been getting very angry just want to yell sometimes GET UP I actually asked her if she was just laying there waiting to die I know she's putting me on a lot I have a hard enough time walking myself I love her more than life itself I can actually predict when she's all of a sudden after being fine all day telling me first its gas's then no its heartburn when I give her a solution the symptoms change when something's really wrong I know it have no problem calling e my or taking her to e r just took her to another city late the other night 200 miles because she was dying guess what no we just got home today told my ex watch its gunna be fun today she's gunna all of a sudden be really I'll I straight up told her was not taking her to e r not warranted like I said she kept switching symptoms I'm sorry to vent like this never done forums before but sometimes I wonder if she's not trying to kill me first thank u for listening like I said doing this by my lone yes I do counseling but maybe its better to talk to people who are there also
A friend of mine is a professional caregiver and she said I HAD to get away and do things for myself find things to enjoy. She said "If you do not you WILL BURN OUT and it WILL lead to Elder Abuse.". HARD to turn your life change BUT with the help of this community of caregivers, YOU CAN DO IT!