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I'm looking for things besides the remote and tissue box. She's always trying to move things around and organize her TV tray table. She is able to do things like put on her socks, tie her pants' drawstrings, brush her hair, search through her address book with her glasses on, etc.


I feel like during the days she's sitting alone, she could have an activity or even just a random thing to keep her brain working. She's been really coherent despite some creative imagination. And, she seems tired of the TV all the time. I'm just not sure what to try and put in front of her!

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Hi! I just got my Mom a 'fidget' blanket on Amazon. It was created by an OT and it is great! It lays on her lap and has many things for her to touch, tie/untie, button, etc. Just google fidget blankets on Amazon there are many options.
My Mom had a stroke and isn't able to do much as her right side is compromised. But this has been great for her!
Best of luck to you!
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Hi chels, how about, word search, or suduko, play doe, maybe. I've been adult coloring, they do make some that are easier than others, and fun. There are marker, crayons, gel pens, pencils, maybe she would enjoy some of the simpler coloring books.
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Mom could and did crochet until the last days of her life. She never 'stopped' so she always had that skill. I realize that if she'd had dementia, this may not have been possible, but she always had a baby blanket to edge or an afghan going.

She also always had a puzzle out and that was something visitors could do with her, if they liked.

She kept sharp with the daily crossword and word scramble.

She kind of fought against any kind of newer technology, but I think if she could have handled it, an Alexa would have been company for her, making her phone calls and playing the music she liked--but she never was comfortable with that much technology.
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I have my Dad sort coins and give him the wrappers. He just makes stacks but then loses count. He puts some in the wrappers sometimes but you'll need to recount if you're turning in. He can sit for hours. He won't do puzzles, thinks coloring is silly. He likes to draw so got him some pencils & sketch pad. Once in a while he will draw something. He won't play cards, even easy ones or any games. It is very difficult. I'm trying to get him in a home where he can interact with other people but it's been a long, trying journey.
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My mother becomes absorbed working with old inexpensive jewelry, sorting and arranging the pieces into interesting patterns on a linen kitchen towel background.
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Magna-tiles - plastic colored tiles with magnets on their ends so she can "build" structures.
If she finger dexterity is good, get her beads to string into necklaces and bracelets.
Some folks do will with the pop-it style toys - soft plastic shapes with bubbles that you poke with your fingers.
Adult coloring books.
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What about those colored pyramid shapes to stack or alphabet blocks that kids play with?
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Patathome01 May 9, 2025
Just ensure not small enough to swallow or choke on. Smooth edges.
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My mother is 98, primarily Spanish-speaking, and has arthritis. I purchased her an Echo Show 8, and printed out simple instructions for her to ask Alexa. She is able to, for example, listen to her choice of latin music, daily horoscope, the weather, ask questions, and make phone calls, all hands free and all in Spanish.
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ChelsC,

While sitting in her chair, your grandmother might enjoy:

Figet blankets or aprons with zippers, buttons, ribbons, and textures, towels to fold, sorting buttons or large beads by color or shape (non-swallowable). Matching socks or fabric squares from a small basket, stacking plastic cups or nesting containers, rolling yarn into balls, coloring books or water painting books (no mess)., looking through old photo albums and talking about them, listening to familiar music or hymns with headphones or a speaker, simple craft kits (foam stickers, collage making with magazines), a box of old costume jewelry to handle and look through, a memory box with safe, familiar items, like keys, hairbrush, coin purse, large piece puzzles with only 12 to 24 pieces, soft therapy putty or a stress ball to squeeze, fidget spinner or pop up toy, cards to shuffle or organize by suit/color.

These simple activities can offer your grandmother comfort, spark memories, and help her feel engaged and valued throughout the day.
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One of the last activities my sister could do was rummaging through her purse. She found great pleasure in doing so especially when she found a $1,000 faux dollar which she thought was genuine.
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Sorry, apparently I triple-clicked and cannot delete the post. I have reported myself.
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I would try to involve her as much as possible in not-critical household tasks so she feels useful. She could scan recipe books for recipes to try in the future (you don't have to cook them if you don't want). When the laundry is dry I put it on a table and I ask my husband for help matching his socks and hanging his shirts. Anything involving sorting may help. My husband self-picked task is sorting his clothes - he pulls them off the closet and puts them on the bed, takes a nap, then puts them back in the closet all mixed up. If he asks, I suggest to separate shirts, jacket, and pants, but he forgets quickly. Sometimes he sweeps the kitchen, often leaving the broom on the floor and little piles everywhere, but he tries. He also likes to look out of the window and report in his own way on the activities of the wildlife. I always thank him for the help, it makes him happy.
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Sorry about the duplicate posting, I don't know how to delete a message if I double-click on "post". :-(
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AnnaKat,
When I accidentally double posted, I pressed the edit button on the duplicate post, and then used the "back" button on the post to erase all the words in it. The blank post still appears, but the duplicate writing is gone.
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Give her coloring books that are made for seniors and people dementia. You can find on Amazon. Mom, age 94, loves to color in her coloring books.
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Neenah May 6, 2025
You can also purchase coloring books at most markets. Mom loves picking out her books.
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Try a twiddle muff. You can make one by searching you tube, or some crochet/knit groups may make and distribute muffs. Folding laundry or towels, etc. Check the dollar type stores for adult theme 100 piece puzzles. If your grandma ever crocheted give her a hook or two, maybe the larger size ones (8mm to 16 mm) and yarn. It doesn't matter if she makes something or makes a mess. It's filling her time and making her feel useful.

You may find high school students studying cosmetology who could come to the house to give manicures and thereby accumulate service hours, which may be needed for graduation credits.

Look through old photo albums or create new ones.
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My stepdad in his 90s enjoyed the Word Search puzzle books. I liked doing Sudoku Puzzle books. Give her a journal book to write down random memories she had when she thinks of them. If she has a table where she could set up puzzles to put together, that would be nice.
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Here are a couple of videos where a daughter thought outside the box. This may not be what she would want to do, but just like that daughter found it to work for her father, if you think outside the box you may find something that your grandma can relate to past jobs, hobbies or family activities.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=D_sbiUC5wE8

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zyCExsRi_1I&t=343s

Even though you say she tires of TV, you may want to check out Zinnia TV. I have found it very helpful. I had said I would never pay for TV services again because there is plenty of free TV but when I watched this video, I decided I had to subscribe and have found it very helpful. I randomly put it on for him especially when he is sun downing.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=texUM9n9Ct0

There is a link in the comments below that video to get a discount when you subscribe, but there is also a free trial. I had heard of it several years ago but did not understand how it was supposed to help until I watched that video. I often feel relaxed just listening to the music and the tone of the voices while I am working on the computer as he is watching it.
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I'm trying to think of things that aren't pieces that could go on the floor, etc.
What about:

First, consider finding volunteers to interact with her - from high school - or a local college with students majoring in nursing, geriatrics, education.

(1) that cube thing with the colors to 'line up.' Even if she doesn't line them up ... which is challenging, she might like the idea or get some benefit from moving them around (if she has the dexterity to do so).
(2) Both of you cutting pictures/photos out of magazines and then letting her design a collage ... you help with the tape or glueing the pieces on to a board / heavy poster board paper - ?
(3) Get paint strips from a paint store - with all the different colors, make a collage or something out of them?
(4) Look on-line (or if there are still toy stores), see what's available for kids... what about a (toy) xylophone to play?
(5) Get a bunch of different color paper clips and ask her to put in specific color groups.

So much depends on her abilities, i.e., would she fall out of bed picking up something on the floor? Could she do easy (?) cross-word puzzles or word games? Perhaps ... in the children's dept., games, to do with spelling. Could be a book or actual game.

Rarely do I feel STUMPED here to respond to a question. I certainly was with this one. Let us know what you do. I sense my best suggestion is to find volunteers as I believe interacting / socializing is the 'best' / healthiest way to support her to enjoy her time. You could even ask for a 'arts and crafts' person - perhaps post a notice at a (your) church bulletin board.

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This is one of those problems that, if she were in facility care, probably wouldn't exist. Those horrible places for people with dementia! That posters here would NEVER make their loved ones do! Are better in some ways that being bored at home! Poor declining parent stuck with a family caregiver that now has no life!

Dementia care offers friendships, outings, 24/7 monitoring and meds, sitting and watching TV with their buddies, eating all meals with their besties and laughter that results, entertainment (sometimes a dance where a karaoke guy brings his friends to get the ladies on their feet and dancing), many puzzles, giant legos, the staff's dogs, the staff's kids who bring them cards and play games and sing for them, and on and on.

Go check out some of these places. Mom would be so much better off and so would you.
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jemfleming May 7, 2025
I have to agree that AL or memory care can in fact offer the stimulation you are talking about. It depends upon the facility and whether the facility has a good activities Director and a well managed, happy staff. It has been better for my Dad to be in AL rather than sitting in his house alone with my brother - who did his best, but who was starting to really burn out. But, as far as care, hygiene, keeping the room clean, keeping them well fed, making sure they are not sick, you, or someone from the family MUST have a presence to ensure the facility does what it is paid to do. Otherwise, there can be real neglect going on. There are no perfect solutions.
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My MIL who had dementia loved “taking care” of a baby doll. She had boys, so we bought a male doll that resembled a newborn in both looks and weight. She never put the “baby” down and brought him everywhere.
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My Dad is 91 and does 300 piece puzzles. We’ve seen a sharp increase in his cognitive skills and dexterity. We also gave him some old-fashioned comic books that he enjoyed when he was younger. Plowed through those in no time.
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Tiredniece23 May 6, 2025
Nice! Go dad! :-)
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I gave my mom a "pop it's" popper, where they push the little poppable bubbles things and she loved it!! she would sit and do that all day & sometimes give it to me to do :) (she had dementia) and I wish she was still with me to do again.
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TouchMatters May 6, 2025
real bubbles? Sounds lovely. Gena
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One of the things I have seen in the nursing home is a small hamper of towels to fold. She might enjoy a task to help. They keep refolding and folding them as you bring them back to do again and again.

Those little squishy kids toys from the toy store that look like a sea urchin or a fidget widget from kids toy store

jigsaw puzzles; my mom at the progression of her dementia could not necessarily find the pieces.. but she could organize them in a linear fashion by color. Try 500 piece or less

dominoes... match and make a long train or play mexican train with her

a small doll baby equipped with easy on clothing, diaper and a bassinet. My mother in law with moderate to severe dementia at a time enjoyed taking care of the baby
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Can you give her magazines and have her cut out recipes?
Can or would she color? Water color or crayons or colored pencils?
Would you have her fold towels, sort socks? (You could even buy a bunch of socks at a resale shop and have her sort them)
Large Legos for toddlers. She can stack them.
The Jenga game. Stacking blocks.
Large format jigsaw puzzles.
Take her for a walk (if it is safe for both of you to do so)
Get a bird feeder and she can watch birds and squirrels

And if there is an Adult Day Program near you that might be something to look into. Most will pick up participants in the morning, they get a breakfast, snack, lunch and activities and are brought back home in the late afternoon,.
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A doll? Even a Barbie and she can brush hair and change clothes?
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My mother (97) has onset dementia. I have large piece puzzles, coloring and easy mystery books. On nice days, she likes to sit outside under the umbrella with our beagle. It is hard to remind her daily about these things. Good luck.
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There are fidget toys and busy boards created just for dementia patients. Online at Amazon, Walmart, Alzheimers store and other places.

They like them and best of all, they always seem new to them every time., so it's never boring.
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We had Mom dry swiffer the kitchen and dining room floors every day.

Mom was also responsible for wiping down the kitchen counter after every meal.

Mom was also responsible for putting the silverware away in the right slot in the silverware drawer (from the dishwasher caddy.)

Mom also liked to pick up pine cones in the yard so she walked around the yard with a plastic bucket and put pine cones in there.
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Kpel1221 May 6, 2025
You’re lucky your mom is still able to walk alone .
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Does she have enough cognition to maybe be able to do a child's jigsaw puzzle? Like a 50 piece one?
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