I have three siblings. Our mom resides in a memory care assisted-living facility 50 miles from where one brother and I live. Sister, who is health-care POA agent for mom, lives in the same city as mom and visits her almost every day. Brother who lives near me is the financial POA agent for mom. He has acted responsibly with his financial POA duties. Other brother lives 1,000 miles from us.
I am a bit concerned because financial POA brother and his wife plan to be out of state for the first two months of 2026, and they have a tendency to be "out of touch" when traveling. (This might be instigated by the wife, but regardless of who's doing it, it's a thing.)
Any thoughts about a respectful way I or sister could ask brother (1) whether there is an alternative financial POA agent, (2) whether he could check in with us periodically, (3) who their emergency contacts are, or (4) more than one of these? I'd be more concerned about having this information for the health-care POA agent (there haven't been any financial crises involving mom; there have been health-care crises); however, my sister is very forthcoming and always in touch. So, although I'm not anticipating a financial crisis while brother and his wife are out of town, I do anticipate that if something were to occur, it could be difficult to reach him.
Nearby brother and his wife live so close to me that when they are not traveling, I could literally walk to their house in five minutes and knock on the door to check on them if I were concerned about their safety or well-being.
The Medical POA should know everything to do with Mom medically. Who her doctor is, her specialists. List of Medications. If Mom is taken to the hospital, then the Medical POA makes the decisions based on Moms POA. The only thing a Medical POA cannot do, is sign financial papers.
Next summer, if all proceeds according to plan, sister and I will be out of the country at the same time for the wedding of one of my children. We'll need to figure out our health-care POA backup for that, if mom is still alive. Although I don't know whether my brother who is the financial POA agent will attend the wedding (he has told me things that I think are preparing me and my child for their eventual, "no, we're not coming."), I don't know whether he would want to be responsible for making health-care decisions even for only a few weeks.
So hopefully nothing will arise while your brother is on vacation early next year, and if it does it will just have to be dealt with when he gets back.
Don't waste your time worrying about things that more than likely won't happen anyway, and just let your brother and his wife enjoy their well deserved vacation.
I know that if our mom dies, whether we can contact my brother is irrelevant for financial POA purposes. What I'm wondering is whether it would be helpful to have a way to contact the financial POA agent while mom is alive and brother and his wife are off the grid.