My mother is refusing everything - food, drink, communication. I'm not sure how to proceed next. She's 86, has moderate dementia, diabetic, high bp, a broken upper arm, and lost my dad a year ago. Refused to take her medications, yet her doctor denied hospice care because her vitals are somewhat stable.
She misses my dad tremendously. She's very confused, falls into hallucinations and is frail to the point of not being able to walk. Yesterday, she refused to eat, drink and communicate with us. She hasn't she woken up since 10:00a Sunday. She was very angry when I tried to change her diaper and started crying. I am her main caregiver in her home and my brothers do help whenever they can. As well, we have two caregivers assist during the week for a few hours while I'm at work. She feels that she's a burden and wants to end her life and be with my dad. She has a dnr in place. I have to contact her doc this morning to reconsider hospice care for her. She won't open her mouth for her meds either. My heart aches for her and I just don't know what else to do.