Condensed: mom fell twice, once before memorial day and the day after. She ended up in the hospital: was there 3 days and transferred to a rehab nursing facility where they make her walk. She was walking at home but as little as possible.
I am unsure what she is capable of, and what she isn't. There will be a final meeting at the home, the final assessment whether she needs supervision or assistance.
Now, there are things the nursing home will do and take care but she acts stupid. (she has acted stupid on occasion her entire life as passive-aggressive manipulation). The remote needs batteries, doesn't ask any of the aides, but will I get it. I mentioned it to the floor nurse on my way out. Wants me to get things that the home will provide is the heading on that...
She eats in her room, she has on occasion gone to the main dining room with everyone else but is now back to eating in her room. Asked her why...'No one takes me.' All I can think is, 'why don't you open your big, fat, pie-hole (those terms), nothing keeps her from opening her yap to me. I can't stand this poor me crap. She will probably be sent home in about 3 weeks and I really am not looking forward to it. I don't mind assisting her but for cripes sake, do some things for yourself. She doesn't like being treated as if she's stupid but when she acts stupid... gaaah. I don't know what is age and what is deliberate. She whines about hurting. I ask her if she wants to pursue more pain management. 'well, it hasn't been as bad for a while..' So, leave me alone.
I really wish she'd stay in the home. We both really are better off even if she isn't completely happy.
The one thing that has not been addressed, because it wasn't found at the hospital. Her odd behavior the time of the second fall. She was in bed when I got home (around 7 pm) she usually watches jeopardy, but was in bed. When I tried to get her up to watch it all I got was this whiny response, 'i can't see it (she has great difficulty, her sight is very very bad), and just tired acting. Later I asked her about it and she seems to think she was out of her head. This 'thing' whatever it is lead to her first big fall 4 years ago (ended up in the same scenario), I don't know if it is another mini stroke, meds, or even if it is interactions with the booze she drinks. She has a jigger or two of brandy in the morning. Couple of small glasses of wine noon to mid day (not much more than a cup of wine) and a jigger or two more of brandy in the evening. I know her meds will interact with alcohol, I just don't think it produced this whacko behavior. I just think, sooner or later, no matter what the assitance, she's gonna fall again. Next time she may really smash her head.
wish she'd stay at the home, but that is up to the personnel there