She had to call again tonight to see what her further instructions were and she is to show up at court with ID and cell phone. She couldn't remember what time and do I want to call and listen? She said I'm not going.
We've been having a couple of hell days and now she is saying will I bring her cigarettes in jail. She doesn't smoke and she was making a joke.
It might be funny but she is acting like it's my responsibility for her lack of doing what the law requires. No, I don't think so.
They sent her that letter weeks ago and it gave instructions on what to do if she wasn't able to be there. But she put it aside and said oh this has happened before-they usually don't have you come down there. Well, now they are and I told her she should go. She can drive, she knows where the court house is. That sounds cold and like I'm being a bitch. But for what it's worth-she also blamed me for the govt decreasing her social security amount. wow. She jumped my shite when she realized that happened and even after she talked with a nice lady at ssi.
Counting down the days to moving time.
She is giving me a fit about getting what she wants and read that again. She is giving me a hard time for getting what she wants-to be back in her apartment.
on a different topic I cried my eyes out today at my therapist. Told her I didn't know if I could hold out for six weeks and she says-'you've come this far' and yes. Yes I have. And I'm ruined for it, too.
I encourage you to not worry about this and to continue to let your mom deal with it however she wants. If she gets arrested, that's her problem.
Some things and people can't be fixed.
But, it depends on what STATE you are in, so you can Google it and find out.
Your therapist is right........there's a glorious end in sight now, so you CAN hold out for six short little weeks, which is nothing in the scheme of things. Get a calendar and use a big fat black magic marker to X out each day that brings you one day closer to her moving OUT!
Yay!
I lived in NY but not in the city and I was being summoned to the court in the city which was a long trip. Some years earlier I did serve in a much closer area and actually enjoyed it. Or you could tell her to move to another state!! That way it will take awhile for her to be found to serve there and harder for you to visit a jail.
A very long time ago I was asked to serve and I told my boss that I would try to get out of it if he didn’t want me to miss work. He told me to go because it was my civic duty. My company paid me even though I missed a week of work.
I was not selected and thought I was done and then they chose a random juror for the substitute and I got picked. So I had to show up daily like everyone else.
Another time I showed up. Told them I wouldn’t be picked because of having a brother in law enforcement for many years. I asked if I could be excused. The woman told me that I would not be excused. She said one lawyer would love me and the other lawyer would hate me and they would fight it out.
Sure enough, they asked the question, “Does anyone have relatives in law enforcement?” I raised my hand and said yes. The lawyer asked if that would sway my decision on the way I voted. I told them no. They fought it out. The person who did not want me won. So as I suspected I did not serve. It was a criminal case.
I wouldn't worry about it. If they haven't picked her as a Juror, they will have enough people to fill the spots.
that's funny tho about your DH 'can you repeat that' reminds me of a Matlock episode. hahaha
Then you can change your number and be free of her abuse.
You can do this, I know 6 weeks seems like a life sentence, but you can do this.
Great big hug and strength to you. 🤗
Accepted exemptions should be listed on the original jury notice, along with their contact info - if you can (or want to) get hold of said notice. They should also be listed on the court system's website.
If no exemptions apply to her, and she refuses to communicate with the Court ... well ... that's on HER.
NOT YOUR RESPONSIBILITY. ((((Hugs))))
This is after she received a call from her exs niece in Canada and he has passed away. This also is the ex that coined me 'the boss' several years ago and they laughed and made fun of me in front of and behind my back.
I feel bad for his Newfie family and friends but mercifully he is out of pain and hopefully onto a better place. I don't know what his beliefs were.
I do know this. She is giving me the cold, icy treatment today. Hard to feel sorry for her about any of it. She will soon be taking out her sorrow on me.
But back to subject of jail. Whoever she talked to from the court gave her instructions on how to get off the list and she was talking clearly and coherently to them.
I recommend asking yourself, "What the first thing I'll do when I'm free?" "Will I jump out of bed in the mornings or roll over?" "How often will I eat out?" "How will I rearrange my furniture to what I want?"
Rather than focus on the torment you're in now, focus on resetting your mind and emotions for your upcoming peace. *hug*
Regardless, at her age she can easily get a waiver.