My 87-year-old mother-in-law was diagnosed with dementia and moved into a residential facility 6 months ago. She has refused to sleep in her bed because it would mean that she plans to stay there. Whenever family members visit she becomes upset and demands to be taken home. She believes her husband is waiting at home for her although she divorced him several months ago.
We decided to sell her condo and use the proceeds to pay for her care. We initially decided not to tell her that we were selling the condo because we thought it would "kill her" if she knew it had been sold. However, we are frustrated by her refusal to accept her new living arrangements after 6 months. We are also finding that her abusive behavior means that no one in the family wants to visit her anymore.
Would telling her the truth about the condo make her to stop demanding to be taken home? Or would it just give her something else to be angry about?