What do you do when mom is God? Until her diagnosis she was, is and has been a hyprochondriac It has baffled me terribly even today. Truly my mom was the smartest most beautiful woman in the world (she is) and up until my mid twenties I would watch and admire her for all that god gave her to include the power of influence, sweetest personality, and trust worthy. The mistake all for her glory i would learn, humility nope, then figured out her 'do for others' as she often did, was with the expectation they would worship her in a sense by assisting her in her illness' that she could/would maintain her invalid posture. In other words, she is /was always in pain, in the bed, and quite happy as she loved to read, and likes isolation best. NOW SHE REALLY IS SICK! SHE ALSO SUFFERS FROM PETITE MALL SEIZURES to add to the dimentia. BUT I AM BITTER, resentfull because in the present this illness has turned her into an enemy who is trying to destroy me in the eyes of my kids! I swallow the urge to let her have it in front of the kids and . . . . well stoop to that level and hurt her too, but I have not and don't know what to do??? Oh and the possibility of a psychiatrist or psychologist she would never go she is one. ha ha I have to laugh to keep the tears from falling. thank you for listening to me and I welcome all. May god bless and keep you and yours each and everyday of this new year and may it bring some comfort and peace throughout in these troubled time.
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You will have to be the adult and set boundaries for Mom. Allowing her to talk about you in front of your children (regardless their ages) is not healthy. Perhaps it is time to look into Nursing Home or Assisted Living Facilities. Making sure Mom is safe, comfortable and cared for does not have to be at the expense of your health and family wellbeing.
God bless and good luck. I am so sorry your family is having to go through this. It is difficult being a loving daughter when disease takes away the parent we knew or makes them even worse than they were.