I used to co own a cleaning company ,, and we had a client who was a bit of a hoarder and her son lived in the basement. I had the joy of cleaning his shower,, where he peed instead of the toilet. I gagged alot! I would start the water on hot and let it run while I cleaned his room. And he was in his 40s and no issues,, just an A..hole. Not my water bill,, not my problem!
I’m wondering if he pees in the empty tub because his aim is not too good anymore, and he thinks it will be less obvious than if he misses the toilet - especially if you have fluffy things on the floor. It might be worthwhile seeing if he would pee sitting on the toilet seat. My DH does this at night because it’s quieter, and we are both very light sleepers.
Some men seem to think that its ‘cissy’ to pee sitting down, which of course is rubbish, but it might explain what’s going on. A change of habit is a lot less drastic than moving him out!
You have nothing on your profile about FILs health problems and if Dementia is involved. I kind of wish my Dad had used the tub. I was cleaning his bathroom everyday. If he had, he would also be rinsing it out. If you don't have a hand held shower head, get one and have him rinse the tub out. If this is because of Dementia, I would start looking for a place for him because its only going to get worse. If he can afford it, Memory care. If not, a nice Long-term care facility with Medicaid paying for his care.
I’m with everyone else on this matter. Be extremely grateful that he isn’t peeing all over the house!
Yeah, it’s annoying but it could be a whole lot worse.
You haven’t gone into detail about your father in law. Is he visiting your home? Does he live at your home? Does he have dementia? Please fill in the blanks for us.
Be glad that he is using the tub, and not somewhere worse I guess.
Worry about what's coming next.
That's pretty much what I would do. Then I would tell the kids, have a good laugh, and hope FIL wasn't right!
Some men seem to think that its ‘cissy’ to pee sitting down, which of course is rubbish, but it might explain what’s going on. A change of habit is a lot less drastic than moving him out!
This can’t get better, and your children don’t deserve to have this situation in their home.
Good luck!
Welcome to the world of dementia.
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You have nothing on your profile about FILs health problems and if Dementia is involved. I kind of wish my Dad had used the tub. I was cleaning his bathroom everyday. If he had, he would also be rinsing it out. If you don't have a hand held shower head, get one and have him rinse the tub out. If this is because of Dementia, I would start looking for a place for him because its only going to get worse. If he can afford it, Memory care. If not, a nice Long-term care facility with Medicaid paying for his care.
Yeah, it’s annoying but it could be a whole lot worse.
You haven’t gone into detail about your father in law. Is he visiting your home? Does he live at your home? Does he have dementia? Please fill in the blanks for us.
Always remember to never scold dementia, you will always be wrong. You cannot explain or reason with dementia.
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