You begin to accompany him when he uses the bathroom. End of story. There is nothing in your profile about FIL If he is not cognizant then accompanying him EACH time he goes to the bathroom is a must. If he is cognizant and he is living with you then hubby puts his foot down and begins the process of looking for another place for him. Cleaning the bathroom from this point on, until FIL moves out is now your husbands job.
I’m with everyone else on this matter. Be extremely grateful that he isn’t peeing all over the house!
Yeah, it’s annoying but it could be a whole lot worse.
You haven’t gone into detail about your father in law. Is he visiting your home? Does he live at your home? Does he have dementia? Please fill in the blanks for us.
You have nothing on your profile about FILs health problems and if Dementia is involved. I kind of wish my Dad had used the tub. I was cleaning his bathroom everyday. If he had, he would also be rinsing it out. If you don't have a hand held shower head, get one and have him rinse the tub out. If this is because of Dementia, I would start looking for a place for him because its only going to get worse. If he can afford it, Memory care. If not, a nice Long-term care facility with Medicaid paying for his care.
I’m wondering if he pees in the empty tub because his aim is not too good anymore, and he thinks it will be less obvious than if he misses the toilet - especially if you have fluffy things on the floor. It might be worthwhile seeing if he would pee sitting on the toilet seat. My DH does this at night because it’s quieter, and we are both very light sleepers.
Some men seem to think that its ‘cissy’ to pee sitting down, which of course is rubbish, but it might explain what’s going on. A change of habit is a lot less drastic than moving him out!
I used to co own a cleaning company ,, and we had a client who was a bit of a hoarder and her son lived in the basement. I had the joy of cleaning his shower,, where he peed instead of the toilet. I gagged alot! I would start the water on hot and let it run while I cleaned his room. And he was in his 40s and no issues,, just an A..hole. Not my water bill,, not my problem!
End of story.
There is nothing in your profile about FIL
If he is not cognizant then accompanying him EACH time he goes to the bathroom is a must.
If he is cognizant and he is living with you then hubby puts his foot down and begins the process of looking for another place for him.
Cleaning the bathroom from this point on, until FIL moves out is now your husbands job.
Always remember to never scold dementia, you will always be wrong. You cannot explain or reason with dementia.
Right?…
Yeah, it’s annoying but it could be a whole lot worse.
You haven’t gone into detail about your father in law. Is he visiting your home? Does he live at your home? Does he have dementia? Please fill in the blanks for us.
You have nothing on your profile about FILs health problems and if Dementia is involved. I kind of wish my Dad had used the tub. I was cleaning his bathroom everyday. If he had, he would also be rinsing it out. If you don't have a hand held shower head, get one and have him rinse the tub out. If this is because of Dementia, I would start looking for a place for him because its only going to get worse. If he can afford it, Memory care. If not, a nice Long-term care facility with Medicaid paying for his care.
Welcome to the world of dementia.
Some men seem to think that its ‘cissy’ to pee sitting down, which of course is rubbish, but it might explain what’s going on. A change of habit is a lot less drastic than moving him out!
Be glad that he is using the tub, and not somewhere worse I guess.
Worry about what's coming next.
That's pretty much what I would do. Then I would tell the kids, have a good laugh, and hope FIL wasn't right!
This can’t get better, and your children don’t deserve to have this situation in their home.
Good luck!