I am at a loss and I feel like I have no one to turn to. My husband and I can no longer care for his mom in our home. We applied for Medicaid to begin the nursing home process, however she is going to be penalized by Medicaid so my question is what do we do when we can no longer care for her in our home, she won't go to a nursing home because she hasn't been approved for Medicaid and we can't afford to pay a nursing home? My husband and I were the only ones who could at the time but she has gone downhill so fast that it's getting harder and harder to care. Is there anyone who can offer some insight?