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While stuck doing everything for my mother and all my sister mostly take to doctor. My mother was in recovery from major surgery. That's why she doesn't remember signing a POA. All her children signed too under distress.

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A POA isn't set in stone, if your mother is now recovered and cognitively competent she can revoke the POA and create a new one naming whoever she wants.
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Your profile states: "My mother no longer want my sister as caregiver or POA. Because, she don't remember signing the papers because she was in recovering from surgery. When signed Healthcare POA. She feel my sister does not have her best interest at heart."

Is there a backup POA?

Do YOU want to continue to be "doing everything" for your mother? How many siblings do you have?
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Making more than 1 person POA can be a recipe for disaster.
If mom is cognizant she no longer needs a POA to be in effect.
She can rescind any document she wishes.
She can have another POA drawn up. She can have who she wants named as POA.
And I would question why she was pushed to name a POA while she was in recovery, one could argue that while under the effects of anesthesia she was not of sound mind, capable of making a decision like that.
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Was this done at the hospital? I ask because her other children signing off is not done in a permanent POA. I would wonder if this was just a temporary thing because of the surgery. So the staff only delt with one person in making healthcare decisions if Mom wasn't able to do so. If so, its only for that one thing. It is no longer in effect.

There are different types of POA. Temporary ones are just for a one time thing. For me it was when my Mom took my daughter overseas, I had a Medical one done up in case something happened and my Mom would be able to handle it. When they got home, it was null and void. Some people assign a POA to represent them in the sale of a house or a business venture. Once done the POA is no more.

Durable POA for Financial and Medical/Advanced Directive should be done by a lawyer, in my opinion. Your Mom would choose whomever she wishes. She needs no permission from any of her other children to do this, no signing off by them. Usually these are "Springing" documents meaning Mom has to be found incompetent for them to be in effect. (a POA can be immediate, meaning its effective as soon as the person signs)

I think you may find that the POA signed in the hospital is not in effect now. It was just for that operation. If you find it was permanent, Mom can void it and assign someone else as long as she is competent. And being assigned POA does not make you the caregiver. Its a tool so the one assigned POA can handle the finances and make medical decisions both when the person who assigned you can no longer do for themselves. If there is no money, the POA does not use their own. The POA gives them the ability to apply for Medicaid or other resources. The POA is not at the others beck and call either.

Again, call the hospital and see if what Mom signed was just temporary for that surgery. If not, then ask how does Mom now go about voiding it. And if Mom does not want your sister caring for her, then she can ask someone else. As said, if she is competent to make her own decisions, then the POA is not in effect anyway. And a POA does not make you the Caregiver. There are a number of people on the forum that do the Caregiving but someone else is the POA.
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