My daughter has cancer and was given 8 months to live and has surpassed that by 3 months. I have a stressful job, but they allow me to come and go to help with my daughter 5 days a week from 2:30-6. After 6 I go back to work to make up those hours. I'm stressed, sad, exhausted and have no time for my 3 yr old granddaughter. My daughter has 4 other siblings who hardly ever go see her or offer to help. I'm so angry that he just told me I'm selfish. Whenever they ask me to watch her on the weekend, I say yes. This week I was to go get my granddaughter from school and take her to lunch but I had to cancel because my daughter had a set back and due to to much radiation on her spine, she's now unable to walk. I do miss my granddaughter but I dont have anything left to give anyone at this time. My kids only call me when they need something yet they wont go see their sister. My priority is to keep my daughter fighting and not alone. Her husband, dad and I are the only ones that split the time and her friends have distanced themselves. I don't know how to get my kids to understand their sister is not going to be here much longer and I resent being told I have my priorities wrong. How do I get past this and find the right words to say to my oldest son?