My parents live 2 hrs away from me. My dad is caring for mom, who is in middle stage of Alzheimer’s. I started coming home every Wednesday to help give dad a break and to spend time with mom. When I walk in the door I am greeted with looks of anger from Mom. She yells at me to go home and says she doesn’t need a babysitter. I calmly tell her I just want to spend time with her. She yells bull sticks! Today I have been here 4 hrs and she won’t look or talk to me. My concern is this: am I causing more harm then good? Should I continue to visit to give my dad a break
Yes, continue to visit in order to give your Dad a break. Look up Teepa Snow on the internet. She has so many videos on why those with dementia behave the way they do and how to handle it.
I’m sorry you’re getting this treatment from your mom. I hope you’ll continue to visit and help your dad as I’m sure he can use the break and the assistance. I’m sure he looks forward to you coming. Try to remember it’s the disease, not your mom, and go about helping quietly with as little upset to her as possible
I would ask Dad how she is towards him. Does she lash out with him? Does she know you as her daughter or are u a stranger to her. If Dad says she is like this with him then she may need a medication.
if its a strange new behavior, many people suggest it could be a UTI
I know when my dad was being hard to manage his AL told me to go have him checked for a UTI.
it could also be the AD
when was the last time she saw a dr? sometimes a geriatric dr is best.
oh and yes continue to support dad. when theres AD. sometimes you have to ignore the behavior and not take it personal
Look up Teepa Snow on the internet. She has so many videos on why those with dementia behave the way they do and how to handle it.
Does she know you as her daughter or are u a stranger to her. If Dad says she is like this with him then she may need a medication.