She murmurs and complains about everything in her environment. Food, location, nothing to do, etc. The caretaker attempts as I do to take her out for a cruise in her mobility cart and sit on the balcony to the apartment. But she has this spirit of complaining and it is getting to me because my mother was mostly a cheerful person. Nothing pleases her and we get into arguments about it. I don't want to be around it; and feel like she is going to push me out to separate living quarters. My fear is that she will start doing the same with caretakers. I'm at the point of putting her in a nursing home.
I like the idea of the headphones. Find a happy place to go to in your mind, or even physically when she starts. Don’t take on the responsibility for fixing her life. You just can’t.
Especially
Vitamin d
Vitamin b12
Low 'brain sugars' are the key to mood-
Doctors can not measure the brains level of sugars-
She may need to eat more often -and include alot of fruit-
Low brain sugars create a wild -worried -mind-
As far as my mother's repetitive insecurities-I've learned to walk away, look away, or wear my tv headphones.(i use distraction techniques away from the conversation to keep my own sanity -and to help her retrain her negative patterns)
I stay out of her direct line of view until pill or meal/changing time etc. And keep her on a schedule as not to rag me out-or rag on me anytime she wants to.
Sounds mean, but I have a camera -and keep very good care of her-
I do everything for her-
Ive had to learn not to be overwhelmed by guilt-and watch my own health-
Especially my mental health-