My mom and step-dad have been together for 34 years, and my dad is 97. He cannot walk anymore because his legs are weak and he falls a lot, and my mom has a very difficult time picking him up when he falls (she has had to call for EMS or the FD many times). He has issues with incontenance, and my mom has a very difficult time changing and cleaning him when he messes himself, or when he needs to be dressed or cleaned. My mom says she can't approach him again about nursing home care because he has threatened to break all of the windows with a hammer or try to kill himself. She proposed to me to come and get him (I live two hours from them) under the guise of just bringing him to my home to visit, but then having him stay with me (Isn't this kidnapping?!). I know hes not going to want to stay. I have a young child and certainly don't want him exposed to violence or, God forbid, a suicide attempt. Plus I work, so I cannot be home with him the whole time. So, I guess my questions are, one, what can we do about care for my dad; and, two, can I bring him to my home?