My grandmother is 78 years old and my mother takes care of her along with a caregiver and she is also in hospice. My mom is sick herself with lupus and she is getting worse because my grandmother is running her ragged. My sister and brother and I try helping with my grandmother but she only wants my mom. Hospice doesn’t really help either. Hospice says my grandmother is in her right mind but we know that she isn’t. She has tried to burn down her house by burning candy to make s’mores. My grandmother is on oxygen and she purposely runs over her oxygen tubes, and calls my mom all hours of the night. My grandmother said she will not go into a nursing g home. How can I help my mom so she doesn’t get worse with lupus?