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My Moms only asset was her house. The first year after her death, my nephew and grandson lived in the house. I had them pay for the utilities. The second year, they moved out and I paid the utlilties. I never paid the taxes. I let the township put a lien on the house. I had the heat turned down to 55 so the pipes did not freeze. I unplugged all the appliances. I had a light that went on and off in the living room. I had cable and landline discontinued. This at least helped keep my out of pocket low. The house had been for sale for 4 yrs by then. When I was just about to abandon it, it sold and I received all my out of pocket back.
Are you personally paying bills belonging to Assets of the Estate? Like the deceased left a home (an Asset of the Estate) but no $. But the home has utility bills, tax bills, maintenance costs, etc. and you are paying these bills. Or you paid all the funeral & burial costs of the deceased. Or you are paying the deceased car note or storage unit. Is this what is happening?
If this is your situation, then my not-an-attorney understanding is that you need to be filing your own claims against the Estate to get that $ paid to you. The Estate will eventually do a distribution to pay claims.
Probate can take a good period of time. It’s very interdependent on what the deceased left for their Estate and if it’s complicated.
My last stint as executor took 18 months. My lawyer always gave me assignments and timelines. If you are not doing any recommended footwork, then of course you are going to get bills. You also can change lawyers.
I did most of Probate myself. Filed for the IRS tax number and NJ too. The only reason why I had a lawyer was because my brother did not want the house he inherited so it had to be put back into the estate. He then helped with the sale of the house and the final accting. In my State, probate cannot close until 8 months. By the time the house sold, it was 2 years. You should be paying nothing out of pocket. My lawyer got his money at the time the house sold. He could have also become Executor and made his money from the % of the estate.
headsortails987, probate can take quite a bit of time depending on the County/City caseload. Even though I had an Elder Law Attorney for my father's probate, it took two years to finally finish up due to the County caseload.
I agree. 1. Who assigned you executor of the will? What relationship did you have? 2. Who are the beneficiaries of the will? 3. How large an estate is this in terms of assets? 4. Are assets liquid or real estate? 5. Were you aware you were assigned executor of this estate? 6. Are you aware that you do not have to serve as executor of an estate just because you are listed? 7. Do you feel educated in the matter enough to act as executor? 8. Are there problems with the beneficiaries? 9. How did you choose the probate attorney? Why can you not communicate with the attorney? How long has the matter been before the attorney? 10. What was your agreement with this attorney as to what duties YOU would do and what duties HE/SHE would do?
Without having any idea what is going on here we could not possibly help. I myself found being executor and trustee of the estate of my deceased brother was MUCH MUCH easier than being the POA while he was alive; however, it did take the most of a year to accomplish everything, pay last taxes and close the estate.
Who's estate is being probated? Are you the Executor/Personal Representative?
When did it go into probate (I'm assuming with the attorney's help)?
FYI probate can take an average of 8 months. My Aunt passed away last January 2025 and it took 8 months to probate, but she cashed in some bonds right before she passed in 2025 and I can't close her estate until I file her final personal taxes.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
B.
APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
C.
APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
D.
If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
E.
This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
F.
You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
Are you personally paying bills belonging to Assets of the Estate? Like the deceased left a home (an Asset of the Estate) but no $. But the home has utility bills, tax bills, maintenance costs, etc. and you are paying these bills. Or you paid all the funeral & burial costs of the deceased. Or you are paying the deceased car note or storage unit. Is this what is happening?
If this is your situation, then my not-an-attorney understanding is that you need to be filing your own claims against the Estate to get that $ paid to you. The Estate will eventually do a distribution to pay claims.
Probate can take a good period of time. It’s very interdependent on what the deceased left for their Estate and if it’s complicated.
You also can change lawyers.
1. Who assigned you executor of the will? What relationship did you have?
2. Who are the beneficiaries of the will?
3. How large an estate is this in terms of assets?
4. Are assets liquid or real estate?
5. Were you aware you were assigned executor of this estate?
6. Are you aware that you do not have to serve as executor of an estate just because you are listed?
7. Do you feel educated in the matter enough to act as executor?
8. Are there problems with the beneficiaries?
9. How did you choose the probate attorney?
Why can you not communicate with the attorney?
How long has the matter been before the attorney?
10. What was your agreement with this attorney as to what duties YOU would do and what duties HE/SHE would do?
Without having any idea what is going on here we could not possibly help. I myself found being executor and trustee of the estate of my deceased brother was MUCH MUCH easier than being the POA while he was alive; however, it did take the most of a year to accomplish everything, pay last taxes and close the estate.
Who's estate is being probated? Are you the Executor/Personal Representative?
When did it go into probate (I'm assuming with the attorney's help)?
FYI probate can take an average of 8 months. My Aunt passed away last January 2025 and it took 8 months to probate, but she cashed in some bonds right before she passed in 2025 and I can't close her estate until I file her final personal taxes.