My 83 year old mother suffered a stroke a year ago yesterday. She is doing well however, continues to have a left side deficit and walks with a hemi walker. She also is forgetful and confused on occasion. My question, I have just brought her back to her (second floor, no elevator) Florida condo (home of 20 years) from my home in PA. I thought the intent was to sell her condo and purchase a (one level) home here in Florida. However, it seems she is feeling that she can be here in her condo permanently on her own. I am still here, however, she is telling me I should leave. (yes, a very painful situation) However, I am telling her that I can not leave, as being responsible, I don't feel she can fully take care of herself. I have asked her to put services in place so that I can go back to PA, however she insists she needs none and no help. I am at wits end. What are my options, or do I just leave (I don't know that I can do that and live with myself when/if something happens).
geevesnc above had an excellent idea, ask your Mom's primary doctor if he/she thinks your Mom could live on her own.
Parents want to hang onto the very last thread of freedom, even if they wind up hurting themselves to prove it. My parents were that way... finally a serious fall changed everything.
Once the OT begins her assessment, your mother may realize that it won't be as easy as she thinks. Since she's been living with you, is that a long term option?