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She does not have all her smarts because of the MS scaring in her brain. We need to find a place for her. She need 24 hour guidance with her meds. etc.. We have taken care of her for over 3 years and we are worn out. She takes care of her personal things but need help showing because she is not steady on her feet. She smokes and has a cat. Where do we go from here?

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She would qualify for Homemaker Services in Illinois through the Department of Human Services. With my agency, we cover adults 18-59 through DHS. Here in IL there are apartments and Homemaker care facilities available if she qualifies (low income). I wish you all so much luck and peace.
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Do you have POA for this person or guardianship? If so, then you can place her. As Peggy Sue has said 65 is usually the age that Medicaid pays for LTC but I have seen younger people in LTC.

Call Adult Protection services ask how you go about placing her. Maybe even turn her care over to the State.
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PeggySue2020 Dec 6, 2025
Younger people can get Medicare early through ssdi, but getting it is a long and often expensive legal process. In fact, it looks like all options ahead are going to involve that.

This 56 year old wont want to leave even if an ltc were available. Theres the cat. The smoking. Having the landlord be the caregiver. Given that it’s been three years, she has tenant rights meaning you’ll need to proceed with eviction if she won’t go. She could go to aps with a story about you.
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You can consult or reference housing help resources for availability and have her evaluated for placement and eligibility with a facility. I would recommend you find someone in your local area that provides guidance and counseling to communicate with her and her living needs assessment. You can also attempt or ask if she is interested if a group home situation, and talk with her physician about what stage and types of multiple sclerosis she may have. A referral for placement or physical medicine and rehabilitation may be considered with medication considerations as well. Best regards with your situation.
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What relationship is this person to you, John?
Is this woman on disability for her epilepsy (I am assuming this condition, as "ecliptic" is a solar astronomy term)?

If this woman is currently under governmental assistance programs, and is not a relative, then this is for the woman herself and her social aid workers from disability to work out in terms of placement.

If you are unable to find your way in this I would contact APS (Adult Protective Services ) in your area and ask for their guidance. If she is not a family member and has no family, nor a POA, then she will need guardianship of the state to find her placement.

I wish you the best.
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Contact social services for her county and set up a meeting for her. Is she on Disability and Medicaid? If so, she already has a caseworker. If she is cognitively impaired, this needs to be discussed as well. Start with social services to get guidance.

Maybe something like her qualifying for a group home or Section 8 housing will be a start to move her out. From there she needs to be on the radar of APS. Like I mentioned see if she is already on any assistance and if she has a caseworker and call that person.
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How did she end up living with you? Is she someone's family member? Does anyone have her power of attorney? What is her financial situation?
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She’s nine years young from qualifying for most senior services. Theres literally millions of boomers in line before her. Which sucks but which was known. This is not your problem to solve anymore. Call aps.
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JoAnn29 Dec 6, 2025
I have seen younger people in LTC.
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