My 74 year old Mom who suffers from dementia and Parkinson's has been in a NH for almost 2 weeks. My sisters and I decided it was best for her after seeing her dementia progress so quickly over the last few months. But, these last 2 weeks she has gone from bad to worse. Prior to her being admitted, she had only a few outbursts and now it seems like it's daily. She's very confused, she thinks she works at the NH. She's hiding her food, packing her clothes because she's "leaving" and gets physical with her nurses. She's even tried to escape the last 3 days. I know she's unhappy and she didn't want to go. I'm afraid she's become depressed and has just given up. What have I done? The guilt I feel is so overwhelming. Did I really just leave my Mom at this place for her to deteriorate and give up on life?
I spoke to the social worker from the NH today and she thinks it's best Mom be moved to a "secure" section of the facility. I know it's for her own safety so she won't be able to wander off but it's so hard to hear. She won't have her tv, no phone, no access to outside unless she's supervised. Like prison.....I can't help but cry just thinking about it. How did my Mom get this bad? Why was she chosen to have these diseases? I feel so lost...my heart is aching.