My dad is 83. He has renal disease, dementia, COPD and recently lung cancer. He doesn't want to do treatment, and his doctor's best guess is that he has about 6-12 months. :( So people are talking about coming to visit him, both extended family and friends. The only thing is, he doesn't really remember any of these people anymore, so it is agitating for him when people come. I think he feels like a failure in a way that he can't remember them, like a sense of expectation he can't fulfill. It was so sad when my sister came from out of state and he didn't know her. He has been crying about it ever since, saying, "What kind of father doesn't know his own daughter?" Mostly the agitation passes quickly and he won't even remember somebody was here by the end of the day. So I also wonder if the visits are appreciated on some level, even if it just breaks up the monotony of his day. He used to be very social and liked to tell stories, and I see that a bit when people are here. I just can't decide if the agitation is worth any benefit I he is getting.