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Your mother does NOT need to be in assisted living to receive the A&A . My Mom gets it and lives with me. I learned of this from Moms former Daycare center and she helped me fill out the forms. there are people who can tell you right off the bat if she is eligible, send me a private message if you need the link. Your Mom will have to need 24/7 help and not be able to live alone probably. They have to have 3 things of daily living they cannot do alone and f you have a caregivers contract, they will pay you to take care of her. good luck
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tiffturn, I also agreed that your Uncle is appropriating $$ meant for grandma's welfare, and you are being grossly under-compensated! Unless he is spending the balance fo the funds on her care and well-being in some other way, and instead is keeping the money for his benefit, he is possibly committing fraud against the Federal government. I would get some legal advise.
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tiffturn, I would see if there is any way for the VA to direct deposit the money for her A&A into your account, or see if you can create an account with her husband so the money would be deposited in "her" account, but he couldn't get away only paying you $400 a month when you are her sole caregiver, on call 24/7!
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Ammendment to my post: there is no way to edit or correct a post, so I want to add something here. I meant to say SERVICE discharge papers, not War. Not all Vets had to participate in any War but they are still Vets.
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You cant count on it. In addition to the recent shut-down, the VA is a behemoth of backlog and delays. It can take anywhere from 6 months to over a year to get paperwork processed, depending on where you live and what Moms income and resources happen to be. You will have to provide records beyond belief including Dad's War discharge papers, a copy of their marriage cartificate and others. You will have your work cut out for you just to get the docs in order.

Even if they DO decide to make payments to her, there will be a terrible time lag. You need to make deciions to care for Mom NOW and contact your local VA rep to see if they can be of any help. Some are wonderful, some are worthless.

It was beyond frustrating for me ( and I HAD all the docs in my files!) so I wish you the best.
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You seem to have forgotten that the federal government is currently closed. Get her to a nursing home ASAP.
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Iv been taking care of my grandmother going on two years 24/7 she is completely bedridden. She gets a A&A but my uncle is over her finances and only Pays Me $400 A Month.......can andbody give me some advice cause bills are stacking up and its getting very tight
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From my experience, if they only need assistance, they are not eligible for A&A program. My Mom needs 24/7 care and thats why she was eligible. Her care needed outweighed her income. Good luck.
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I was told in 2011 (at a free semenar) that if my mom was married to a vet during war time who served in the war, she was eligible for help with assisted living. She had to be IN assisted living before applying, then if approved, it would take 7 to 8 months for checks to start coming but they would pay starting the month she got approved. So she is in assisted living, widowed a second time, and they refused her because her second husband wasn't a veteran. The director of the home says she should be eligible. I will have to find a lawyer who does this work, and won't give up. I will search the site above and see if there might be another way to get help. Thanks 50schild.
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Surviving spouses can be eligible for the VA A&A benefit. There are strict requirements, described on the VA Web site, but this link will provide information about rates:
http://www.benefits.va.gov/PENSION/rates_survivor_pen12.asp
You can consult for free with the VA, VSOs (veteran ervice organizations), and sometimes county government VA specialists. There are many private companies and lawyers that will charge you for the same advice. You should specifically ask that the A&A specialist has taken the proper VA training in A&A, they should have a certificate. Good luck!
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Yes there is an aids and attendance program that will may for veterans spouses. I was just approved for my grandmother. There is alot of paperwork and it is based on income and a couple of other things. Contact your local VA and they will help,they know about all the loopholes and laws of it. It is a long process but worth it. Good luck!!
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I have just investigated this for a client. The program that MAY help is the Aid and Assistance Program and the easiest way to get information is to search the VA website for this program. It will depend on when her husband served and the circumstances of his service.

There are a lot of hoops and your local VA center may not have accurate information so if you read the requirements and think you qualify, you will need to be persistant.
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That depends somewhat on where you live as well as your mother's financial situation. I'd say don't count on it, but it's very worth your while to check. Many veteran's benefits go unused. Call your local vets representative and see what hoops you need to jump through.
Good luck,
Carol
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