My father and mother live in a retirement community (recently moved there.) My father has incontinence and uses depends pads. Since they moved to the new community he has had many accidents and is soaking through pads. I should also mention that he has early signs of dementia. My mother feels embarrassed and depressed about the smell. He does shower every day. I set up a schedule for him to follow to change his pads, but he isn't following it and my mother is too embarrassed/annoyed/tired or whatever to get after him to change his pads over the course of each day. I just don't know what else to do. Clearly he is forgetting or having sensation problems that the pads are soaked. Any ideas or suggestions would be so helpful.
Oh, and be so very glad that he takes a daily shower. If you read about others when it comes to their parents and incontinence, they are lucky if they can get their parent to bathe once a week.