So, this summer my Mom settled down after going off the deep end with an obsession over bowel movements and diet coke, and we got the official diagnosis of Alzheimer's and vascular as secondary dementia. She has stopped obsessing about Diet Coke, and we are regulating it by giving her one at lunch and one at dinner, but none in her room.
I continue to take her to work out once a week, and her outside caregiver takes her to work out the other day, and then to play cribbage at the senior center the other day. Additionally, I take her to the library and occasionally to the store or other errands. She seems fairly content, and asks about once or twice a week to come live with me, but she's not being nasty about it like she was before. (she's at the memory care home just up the street from my house)
Friday she got an infection in one of her earring holes, so they asked me to take her earrings and clean them, so she's been rather mean about wanting them back, but she couldn't remember to leave them out of her ears. I'm bringing them back to her today, hopefully she won't be too snarky with me.
We are travelling to see family (without her) for both Thanksgiving and Christmas, and I'm a bit worried that there will be some backlash from her. However, what I have found is that many times I do things with her FOR ME, because it makes me feel better, but most of the time it doesn't necessarily make her feel better. Travelling would not be good for her at this stage in her disease, she simply gets too confused and then grumpy etc. She won't remember it, and her enjoyment will be fleeting. Still, I feel bad. Guess we will see how it goes.