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I'm back again with a different question. My disabled mom lives in a co-op for nearly 50 years and since her accident she hasn't been able to fix things and has no money. Are there any organizations that can help? She can't bathe anymore and needs a walk in tub/shower also but has no money to have these things done.
Also, her building has been trying to get her out for years and treat her like garbage. No one talks to her and all the residents talk badly about her right next to her front door. They are doing everything in their power to make her get out by passive aggressive methods. Just recently a resident started yelling at her because she was getting a package delivered. They really treat her inhumanely and don't even acknowledge her. I fear her getting more and more depressed and not caring at all about herself. Since her dog died a few years back, she is pretty much alone and the quietest person in the building yet they blame her for numerous things in the building. I know she misses her dog a lot.
I sure could use some advice. I really don't know what to do or how to go about helping.
Thanks to all!

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Per, mom lives in NYC? Have you spoken to the local area agency on aging? Some of them are really excellent. They can advise you on stuff like tenants rights, low cost home repair, etc.

With the " everyone hates her"...I going to ask you to tread cautiously. Unless you yourself have heard/witnessed this, your mom could be displaying some very typical signs of early dementia, paranoia, confusion and the like.

Do you have the numbers of any of her close neighbors, or of the manager of the building? You might get a fuller picture of what is going on that way.

There is a concept called NORC in the NYC Dept of Aging....Naturally Occurring Retirement Community. There are some areas of the City with a large number of elders "aging in place"..Penn South, Bay Ridge, Downtown Brooklyn. Some neighborhoods have social workers assigned to specific complexes, I understand.
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Co-op, after 50 years. A co-op was purchased, so there should be some equity, or is it a refund on your investment?
To get along in any community, one would have to keep their unit safe, clean, and updated in good working order. Is there a possibility she has become entrenched in there, a bit of hoarding, a smell emanating from the unit?

Of course people hate her after fifty years, her rent is low and a burden on the co-op, plus, the neighbors could be jealous because if they bought their units more recently, they are paying more. It is human nature to attack those weaker than the others (if neighbors are bullies, lowlife bottom-dwellers).
Move her to a nursing home while her home is cleaned, (just guessing, 50 years?)
then, either move her back in, or ask her where she would be happy.

You would do well to organize a painting cleanup party, help your mom from your own resources. It's time.

Agencies and organizations can only help so much.

Best case scenario: Move her out of there. Imop.
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Your mother lives in a cooperative in NYC, yes? So if her lock in broken, that's HER responsibility to fix it, I believe. And of course the front door is locked; non locked front doors in NYC are the rule of thumb, unless there is a security guard or doorman.

How does the manager of a coop building "sue the residents out"? Your mother has stock in the corporation and a proprietary lease. Has she violated the terms of the lease? Has your mother complained to the Coop Board about harassment?

Who is threatening to "break into her place for non-issues"? In a coop, or any type of well run building in NYC, the office has a copy of the resident's key so that emergency access can be had.

I think there are a lot of unanswered questions here. It also sounds like your mom needs more help than you can give her. Does she have a caseworker of any kind? Does she get disability?
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In additiin, does mom qualify for Medicaid? She would be able to get a bathaid, perhaps and maybe a housekeeper a few hours a week if she qualified.
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NYC Department for the Aging. Lots of information; free legal help, senior centers, case management.
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You came to the right place here on AC. Go to the blue bar above, click on Caregiver Support, then click on Find Area Agencies on Aging.

Leads to a N.Y. Area Agency on Aging phone/address:
(212) 442-1000

You will be asking for something specific, such as free handiworker services.
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I'm not assuming it's the mom's fault. What hasn't been explained is how greed comes into this. Unless she's a long time renter in a building that has gone coop. If that's the case and there is harassment, she needs to go to a legal clinic and get representation for going to housing court. I suspect there is much more to this story.

In NYC, it is quite common for long time rental tenants in buildings that become coops to get substantial buyouts for vacating their units. That may be a solution here.
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NYC-I'm trying to finish school after caring for her after her accident and do have some disabilities of my own. She's only in her50's. No husband.
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There are organizations almost anywhere who help out seniors in need. Check the yellow pages (old school), churches, and get her another dog. They are so helpful with depression and beating loneliness and maybe one could bite a biting neighbor (just kidding)! Can you help out?
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I would move my mother to an assisted living of her home could not accommodate her current needs. Why would you want to live in those conditions with mean neighbors?
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