As a kid growing up I was raised as an only child as my siblings are much older. My parents both had issues. My Dad cold and stand offish and my mother and alcoholic. As they got older and there health started to catch up to them it fell to me to take care of them. I took care of my father till he pass two years ago and I am still taking care of my mother now. She has been sober 7 years. But I find I get very resentful for so many things. I an 38 now and I have been taking care of them for the last 8 years. I have done my best to put on the happy face but when my dad passed I found I was left with many regrets. I am trying not to let that happen with my mother. I need help finding away to be more patient and calm.