Good morning all!! I'm just at my wits end with my FIL. We are hoping to get an assessment soon to see if there is any chance he has dementia. He has signs but he is also home and in the bed a lot, and not having any social outlet could potentially mimic the signs (per the home health nurses), so we really need an official diagnosis to know which direction to go with this. My SIL just called and his frugal nature is all that stopped him from getting scammed, he didn't want to put his credit card information in for a small 'fee' they wanted to charge and called my BIL into the room to help him (get a free Samsung Galaxy S20 for only $1 - when is he going to understand if it sounds too good to be true it probably is...apparently people out there in the world want to please HIM so much they have these offers just for him!!) That is all that stopped him from putting his credit card info into a random popup....my head hurts from banging it so hard on the wall now.
We have talked and talked, and given him examples of people who have lost everything to scammers and if he doesn't have some cognitive decline then he is even more narcissistic than we have believed up to this point. If he is not in cognitive decline then he actually believes that he and only he is above scamming, that he will not fall for it - even though he HAS a number of times and just got lucky that BIL or SIL walked in on his conversation or his typing information. I just don't know what to do anymore. I've posted questions about this several times before and received great advice. But at this point, I feel like the best thing we can do is let him get scammed. We've told him that if he does, it isn't like a legitimate business where we can potentially get his money back. That tracking down a scammer involves police reports and locking accounts/closing accounts and even then we won't likely get his money back. I do not know what more we can do. Taking away his phone and computer and turning off internet activity seems to be the only other option and may open a can of worms that cause even more trouble. But at this point I'm wondering is it terrible to just let him fail? Just let him get scammed and pay the price? I don't know what else to do.