When mother in law lived with daughter we would pick up her up for a few hours on the weekend (every other) so my sister in law would get a break. Since the mother in law has been here for a month we haven't done nothing as a couple and today when I asked about it he said when it is deserved. (meaning when I support him for the decision HE made). If I would been at at the meeting where it was decided she move here, I would have raised that question of us getting a break from her and who would help US out. He raises my blood pressure.