I am a only child of a 79 year old BPD mother. She has been like "this" my whole life, yet until today I never had a name for it. She was living in another city until a month ago when she came to stay with my husband, daughter and myself ... until she got set up on her own. She is staying on our living room sofa in our tiny 2 bedroom apartment. I guess time and distance sfforded me the luxury of believing maybe it wasn't really all so bad... maybe she changed for the better...
10 days after moving coming to stay with us she had a stroke. Difficult does not begin to discribe what it's been like ...I have cried a lot lately. My eyes are constantly sore and puffy.
This evening I am sitting with my husband watching TV. We are watching a show I like called Law and Order. This lawyer on the show asks "what is BPD"? The expert recites a list of traits .... discribing my mother exactly! My husband and I both look at each other with mouths gaping open, then at my mother. Who just so happens at that moment to be giving us a very eggsgerated silent treatment.
She lost her drivers licence and is dependent on us to get her to physio and her other appointments. She is hostile and adamant she does not want to live with us. All of her anger and aggression is directed at us, mostly me.
Thankfully, I found this site. My question is what has been the most helpful for anyone in a simular situation. Self help books, strategies? Any feed back that will point me in the right direction would be greatly appreciated.