Mom's dementia is taking it's toll on my personal family life now. My husband and 17 year old daughter sat me down this past weekend and told me they feel it's time for more help to take care of my mother who is middle staged dementia. She is requiring more of our free time and we have no privacy as she lives on the second floor apartment of our home. She is constantly in our apartment either looking for someone to fix her tv or just looking for company. She does not remember how to dial the phone and comes down stairs numerous times a day. I have no time to be intimate with my husband and my poor daughter is always going upstairs to fix tv's, bring meals and meds and whatever else needs done. My poor family is now taking to hiding around the house so they don't have to do stuff and unfortunately I am now trying to hide too. I feel guilty on both counts. I totally understand where my family is coming from but I love my mom and I don't know what to do. If you have any suggestions it would be helpful. Thank you.
Unfortunately, this stage your mom is in will progress. There is no time table of when. For my mom she went from mild to last stage in a little over 2 years. But my husband now sees what this disease can do and he has admit that he was wrong for fighting me. We are all mom has , my siblings turned their back years ago. So for me a placement for my mom outside of this home was no option.
I pray that you will find in your heart the best decision for everyone. Check into daycare in your area I would suggest to try that first, and then move onto outside help if still needed.