Mom (95) lives w/ sister (72) and her husband (80) for last 40 yrs. Mom is mentally alert but mom and Sis are co-dependents. Mom is first consideration for Sis.
Mom is in a wheelchair, can barely transfer, falls sometimes, some toilet accidents, can't shower, must have meals cooked and served to her, needs meds set-up weekly, has a Fentynal (sp?) patch for pain, can't be left on her own for more than an hour or two.
Sis has help maybe 3 hrs a day along with me driving out twice a week to prep food, meds, and pay bills, about 4 hrs/wk.
Sis's family is sick and tired of this arrangement--everything has to be arranged around MOM. I think it is past-time for a change to a NH. Sis says Mom doesn't need 24 hr. care. I have looked at NH/SNF places in case Sis ends up in the hospital because Mom can't live with me and my family and I'm not moving out to Sis's house to take care of Mom.
Does CA take over with Medi-Cal after she has spent down her limited savings (no other assets)? The NH/SNF I have toured seem to be telling me this--and they do the paperwork. True?