For those who became estranged from their siblings because of lack of help for parents, how is your relationship now?

While I personally have no living family, here is my take on siblings and parents. The parents belonged to all the siblings. In some cases, there are very legitimate reasons why some can't help but others just don't want to and it is straining the relationship among all the siblings. You might not be able to choose who your family members are but you sure can choose what kind of people you want in your life. If your siblings just don't and won't help, what kind of lousy people are they? Why would you want them in your life? If they are not kind and loving and generous and have compassion, etc., walk away and stay around people who are decent. There is no law that says you have to remain family if they are NOT family.

Not siblings but aunt and cousin. Cousin made the mistake of saying she'd stay in touch. She used her family reunion and Instant Messaging to accomplish this as to not look bad in the eyes of the Lord. After IM she made it to reunion no contact from her since.

Aunt, haven't heard from her at all, even though mom was always there for her sister.

There is no relationship at all and I will never ever speak to them again. four sisters and each one said they were to busy to help me out with parents. I was told by each one of them when I called them asking for a few hours a week help with parents "we have our own lives and families and just don't have the time to help. call me once they die and well see if we can make the wake and funeral."
that was the topping on the cake for me.
first my dad died, than three weeks my mom passed. it was hard. very hard taking care of two people who couldn't feed themselves, wore diapers, dementia and many other health issues.. they both died in my arms.
no sisters came to the wake and or funeral but guess what? the next day after we buried my mom one of my sisters called my moms house and asked me what my parents left them in their will , talk about nerve. I said. they did for you what you did for them NOTHING. you got nothing. and I hung up....
my ex sisters never called again and needless to say I will never call them...
to treat your parents as they did after they brought you into this world, loved you and help you through many issues in all of your lives , is in my mind unforgiveable.....
I consider myself the only child...........

Am I deaf, dumb and blind? When you go through life, do you choose to put yourself in bad situations and then stay there when you are being destroyed and horribly impacted or do you do something about it? What difference does it make who or what - you don't deserve to be in that position. When all has been tried and nothing goes right, then you have to make up your mind that you are worth it and have the right to a peaceful and happy life. If that means leaving the who or what, then do it - never look back. Make a new life - and you will - and you will be happier. No one deserves this treatment.

I have read this question about a thousand times. My parents are still alive.
There is no relationship with my sibling. Sibling let me know they couldn't help anymore and went on a vacation during house clean out and hasn't been back. I do not ask for their help because this person does not help. Yes, it is hard to accept because sibling is a PA and could help with doctors and medical decisions but sibling told me they weren't going to help and after asking at least a 1000x for help and getting nothing I don't ask anymore and have no contact. I am not anticipating any involvement from any extended family because there are very few family relationships left. It is sad that these people drive past the ALF almost everyday and never stop to visit or call my parents. I guess some people consider them to be dead. My parents are not the easiest to be around and many times I have to honor myself and leave when they get mean. My husband is very loving and supportive and I could not do this with out him.

My take on this is a little different. My brother has always been there for me. He helped me out financially years ago and never expected money back in return. His son died at the age of 21 in 2003. He has been seeing a psychologist since then. He doesn’t have much of a relationship with my mother with all her nuttiness and everything. My mother always treated my sister n law like shit, so I don’t blame him for only seeing her once a year. He is a healthy person. Years ago my mother was as going to leave me everything in her will. I told her to split it with my brother. She said no. So I said I don’t want your money. Give it to my kids. So she did. The will states my 2 kids as the beneficiary. My mother is not going to ruin my relationship with my brother.

I had to completely cut my last surviving sibling off and once I did my life has become so peaceful despite she is still trying to fight me over petty stuff which is now in the hands of the courts. My mother passed away unexpectedly. I have a selfish sister that milked my mother dry with her bank account. After my mom passed, never saw her maybe once a year Christmas she would stop by.. My father who was 87, when my mother died, died last year 5 years after my mom. My father needed full time around the clock caregiving his last year. I was exhausted raising my 3 son's as a single mom all while at night caring for my father. He was moved to home hospice. I asked my sister to please come see our father and if she could help. She never showed up. After my father's death, she only wanted to know what she was left and where is the money from a reverse mortgage. She was so hateful, she accused me of stealing from my father. If she had been around she would know that he had no money. All money he had went to keeping up his home and his caregiver when I was not with him. My sister was so hateful she tried to stop his probate with ridiculous claims. She did nothing to help with anything.. nor with my mom when she was taking care of my dad, which resulted in my mom's unexpected passing. Since my father died, I no longer have a sister. I know I tried to get her to stop with her fake charges and accusations against me. She was threatening me to the point I had to take a restraining order out on her so that she would never step foot on my property. I was sad at first because so many knew we were estranged at the funeral and they had hoped we would find a way to work through our differences. I had to decide for my peace of mind, to walk away. We were never close and all she wanted was money from me and my parents. As much as I felt like an orphan, I am thankful that I have friends who are like my family. I was very generous and kind to my sister when my father was living even though with his dementia he could see how evil she was because she ended up forging checks of his and stealing the little money he had. It saddens me to see that so many families get pulled apart by not honoring their parents. My ungrateful sister, did NOTHING to help my parents but felt entitled to take everything from them that she could get once she did come around. I am in a happy place. When I run into people that ask me about her, I kindly say Who? That is how my relationship is now.. non existence.